How to stop your child’s tantrums before they start

How to stop your child’s tantrums before they start

  • 17 May, 2017
  • Lydia Herrera
  • ADHD, challenging child, Disciplining an ADHD Child, Meltdowns, Parenting an ADD or ADHD Child, Tantrums,

Are tantrums and meltdowns causing havoc in your home? 

Do you wonder what to do when a meltdown hits?

By watching and getting to know your child really well, I believe it’s possible to prevent meltdowns before they get out of hand.

Here’s what I suggest …


watch your child closely and record the following information about your child’s meltdowns:




  • What is happening before the meltdown?
    1. Are you in a particular place?
    2. Do meltdowns hit at a certain time of day?
    3. Are there certain things that ‘trigger’ a meltdown (tired, hungry, certain people, noisy or crowded places, lights that are too bright?)
  • What is the behavior during a meltdown?
    1. How does the meltdown start? Are there warning signs?
    2. What is the actual behavior during a meltdown? What is the worst and for how long?
  • What happens after the meltdown?
    1. What stops it?
    2. How does your child wind down?
    3. How do you respond?

You are looking for a pattern.  Patterns can be the key to dealing with the meltdown.

Prevention:  If you find a pattern, decide what you can do to break or avoid the pattern.

Does a certain food trigger the problem?  Cut it out of the diet.

Does your child get angry after playing a certain video game?  You know what to do.

Does your child get upset when she wears a blouse with a tag?  Cut the tag off or eliminate the blouse from the wardrobe.  Check other clothes for tags or scratchy fabric.


Explain to your child why the change in diet, or game choice, etc.  Help him or her understand that some things cause problems, so you’re going to help avoid the problem.  Will your child have a meltdown about that?  Maybe.  But that will pass.  Don’t back down.

Think of ways to help your child communicate their feelings or discomfort and listen.  In the conversation you may find the answer to meltdown triggers.



Analyze your reaction to meltdowns. 

  • Does your response escalate the problem? (yelling, spanking, getting angry?)
  • Are you rewarding the bad behavior? (giving in to demands, or making excuses?  Especially when in public.)

Sometimes, the best you can do when a meltdown hits is to…

remove your child to a safe area and let the tantrum fizzle out.  Stay calm, wait it out.

I know that doesn’t sound sexy, but as you learn how to avoid tantrums in the first place you’ll find meltdowns get fewer and fewer.

Now that’s pretty cool.


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